Grief

Grief…

The pain of a loved one gone

A life cut short perhaps before his time

I could only hug her

She found him

We cried and prayed

Months, years later it hurts… still

"Everyone else seems to have gone on with life” she laments

“I haven’t”

We talk continued leaning in to support systems …

And asking for what you need

She recants hurtful words that challenge her to speed up her grieving process

I hold my peace

She agrees to occasional check ins

Simple calls to say I care…

This is a “check in” post

Please “check in” on those who’ve lost loved ones

Sometimes they are STILL not okay

A simple text saying “I’m thinking of you today”

A talking emoji to cheer

A voice note

An email

A virtual hug

Something that communicates care!

If you’re not sure, ask them!

Ask them to help you help them!

Let the healing continue.


In health,
Dr. Olabintan

Author

Dr. Tolulope Olabintan MD, AAHIVS, FAAFP, dipABLM Dr. Tolulope Olabintan is the Co-Founder and Medical Director of Livingspring Family Medical Center. She is a Christian, Family Physician, writer, mentor, mother and wife. She takes joy in empowering her patients and readers to live their fullest lives possible. She helps patients live long and well as she believes that the quality of life is just as important as the quantity of life. She is also a foodie and loves the colors teal and orange. Dr. Olabintan completed her medical degree at UMDNJ Rutgers Medical School in 2007. Dr. O went on to finish her Family Medicine Residency from Albert Einstein College of Medicine Family Medicine residency where she also served as a Chief Resident. She then went on to complete a women’s health/surgical obstetrics fellowship at St Francis hospital in 2011. She is a board-certified Family Physician, Lifestyle Medicine, a HIV specialist and a fellow of the American Academy of Family Physicians.